Quote Originally Posted by newslave View Post
Hello all!

i am (as my name suggests) a sub new to the lifestyle. i have not had any real life experiences yet, but i do have an online Master who is teaching me about the life. However, i find that i am so overwhelmed with my desires for Him and for the pleasures that i recieve with Him that i can't even concentrate on my life before (University and schoolwork, other friends and my housemates, even sleep and waking hours). i've become addicted, reading literature when he is not available, or watching movies, or just daydreaming, and i am worried for my grades and to some extent my sanity.

Please help me! How do i learn to balance vanilla and BDSM life?
Education is so important. Think about how young you are and that you have many years to explore and experience what desires are within. Balance is so important. You can achieve your goals at school as well as experiment with your innermost feelings. Think about taking one step at a time. Play when the studying is done; daydream when the reading is finished; read exotic fantasies when the tests are complete. Explore, but only when done with those things you need to finish - as you will find much more pleasure when all other things are done.

Explore the most darkest and deepest feelings - one step at a time, for whatever that step is.