I vote this thread be made into a sticky- assuming it can be added to. Whenever I get a query from someone who has no idea what's 'expected' of a sub I wonder how many are out there who don't have the nerve to ask someone, or start a thread.

IMO the greatest threat to our community are those who use ignorance & inexperience to prey on new subs. How many are lost to D/s forever through being misused & abused?

My most common answer to enquiries, is 'If he cares, he'll listen'