Quote Originally Posted by ;593133
I do love this thread, and i had a question for everyone. Is there anywhere in the community that has a listing of potentially dangerous Dom/me's and Subs? I think it would be difficult to maintain such a list because i'm not speaking about people who have made others angry for whatever reason, but the people who in real life have truly hurt someone, continuously ignore safewords, and are just predators in general. It's just a thought i had, but again, i can't see how to get around the tendency for people to be petty and write a warning about someone that may not have done anything but not be the person one thought they were going to be. Any suggestions?
That's been suggested before tydnchaynz, but wouldn't work for many reasons- predators change their names, & are very good at putting on a false front.

More importantly, as mastersgem said- who are we to judge? Just because a guy hurts someone, doesn't mean he's not capable of changing, & becoming a real Dom.

I always say if you're interested in someone, read their posts if they're on a forum- if you click on someone's name, you get an option to 'show all posts'

Not infallible by any means, but it's a start.

99.9% of the problems I hear about are caused by one thing- subs rushing into a relationship, often due to pressure from the new Dom. I maintain that if he cares, he'll allow you to take your time, & even slow you down a bit.