Thinking about it last night, he is the one being insecure about him being caring, he is scared to loose control. But remembering that night, he was very caring of how i felt about it all, and was watching over me. i think he is overanalysing this, and making a big thing out of nothing in a way. and i agree with you guys completly when you say that we have to find out if we r compatible for a relationship. Maybe this is the problem. he is imature and scared of his feelings. He is a Dom, but aint ready to assert all responsabilitys that comes with. now i hope ill have the strenght to keep him out of my life. And i also realize i have work to do on myself, to learn to put my limits, and stick to it.