What makes you submissive?

[bondsman]

I can't pinpoint a reason for my submissiveness (seems like no one else can either), as I've never been abused as other people have. But I am a believer in personality developing as a result of environment. I've had relationships that were very one sided, including non-sexual, and I'm not sure if this is the cause or result of my need to be controlled. Even my best friend when I was young was a "bully," and that was one of the most open friendships I've ever had. If I associate closeness or intimacy with submission, then my relationships with friends or girlfriends have defined me; if not, then my submissiveness has made me a target for those kinds of people.

I agree with tydnchaynz. It doesn't matter in the end.

[gemmy]

I can't pinpoint a reason for my submissiveness (seems like no one else can either), as I've never been abused as other people have. But I am a believer in personality developing as a result of environment. I've had relationships that were very one sided, including non-sexual, and I'm not sure if this is the cause or result of my need to be controlled. Even my best friend when I was young was a "bully," and that was one of the most open friendships I've ever had. If I associate closeness or intimacy with submission, then my relationships with friends or girlfriends have defined me; if not, then my submissiveness has made me a target for those kinds of people.

I agree with tydnchaynz. It doesn't matter in the end.

No it really matters not, I agree, but it is interesting peeking into the psyche of others and see if we have things that relate or not.

I do like this statement you make bondsman..."But I am a believer in personality developing as a result of environment." - I think it must play bearing on some of who we are as well