Aloha all

I am not sure what I will write here but mgem's photos showed she can step into the light then I guess so can I.

As a Dom, I am inexperienced in any matters relating to real life as till now I have had no real chances to play for real. Who knows what the future may bring? On line I have had about 10 years experience and feel I can reveal some of myself. I know that for 'us' who have been limited to on line experiences our views and comments can some times be a little devalued and I understand well why this may be. How ever it makes them non the less valid so long as they are kept in that context.

For myself, I think about the many ladies I met here quite a lot. My minx I think about almost continually. It is her I want to bring the best out of. I take a lot of time to think about what activities we might do and I take non of them lightly. I even dry run many parts of the tasks I might set her or anyone else myself as part of my desire for the task to be able to be successfully completed and the appropriate punishment or reward to be administered.

I like to flirt and to make people feel special, my minx the foremost of those. It is my desire for her to know when I am pleased and to guide her to the many ways of doing so.

For me I wish a sub to please me because it is her desire to do so, not just mine. I don't want her to serve because she fears the stick but because the carrot that drives her is my praise for her. This approach may be frowned on by many but it works for me and as I am the Dom it is what I will continue to do till it pleases me to change.

I like to encourage a smile rather than a frown and a giggle rather than a cry of alarm. I seek to gain her respect for me rather than demand it. I in return respect her for what she is and want her only to grow and become more of what she truly desires. (God I'm starting to sound so full of myself - forgive me all.)

I know some of my faults and limitations but I realize there are some still waiting to appear and so I know my journey is one of constant learning. I am sure I learn more from Minxy than she will ever hope to learn from me. The same is true of other ladies I meet her I am sure. So I will continue to aspire to become, with time perhaps, a passable Dom. Hopefully I can help others who are perhaps new or unsure and if I can I am pleased.

I find that at this moment I have many changing emotions and my views are changing all the time as I learn more.

Reading this I fear I will have bored many so I will finish. I hope that this was what mgem was looking for. Not sure it is 'insightful' but it is from me.

thank you to minxy for just being minxy and you mgem for just being mgem. xx