Quote Originally Posted by GearJammer{kuriouspet} View Post
Well said, mgem, and well observed. I suppose the only thing I can add is that a man who is a Dom (as opposed to a man who sometimes dominates, regardless of how well on those occasions) is always a Dom, although he may not always Dominate. The post you made strikes me as such a Dom.

The same principle would be true of course, if the gender words were changed to she and Domme above. The exact same.
I couldn't agree more Jammer...I don't suppose myself the Alpha and Omega of Dom insight but I do have strong feelings as to my place as a Dom. To me Dominance is about traditional respect, respect primarily for my chosen and respect to and for those whose respect I wish to gain, male or female. Holding a door for a lady, allowing the elderly man at the market to take a place in line before you, ensuring that a coworker gets to her car safely late at night are, in my mind very Domly traits. As a Dom I have made a pact of sorts to care for and protect those in my family, my community and my relationships.

As for my partner DTA all of the above applies. When we are out I am vigilant to ensure she is taken care of, opening doors, holding her hand, keeping her close and making her feel more than mine, but secure and safe. These things may be corny in society today but for me they define being a Dom. What happens during play is just that…play. Honor happens every day.