nice post..see Dom/mes do post too,when they have something worthwhile to say
Quote Originally Posted by Red Dragon View Post

For me I wish a sub to please me because it is her desire to do so, not just mine. I don't want her to serve because she fears the stick but because the carrot that drives her is my praise for her. This approach may be frowned on by many but it works for me
i dont see why this approach would be frowned upon,for what it's worth i think it's the right approach it's the one that works for us and im guessing many othes too.

there's nothing usually a sub loves more than knowing they've done well,have pleased and have been recognised it's part of what they aim for.and who in all honesty wants to please only to avoid the stick?? i for one dont want to live my r/ship partly out of fear.
ive not yet met a sub ...yet...who doesnt like or even need praise subs are supposed to be unselfish and only want to please thats true to a degree but we're human too and of course we want something back otherwise we wouldnt be doing this,it's part of our 'make-up'

maybe i'll be frowned upon now lol but that's my take on it.