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i dont see why this approach would be frowned upon,for what it's worth i think it's the right approach it's the one that works for us and im guessing many othes too.
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Thank you for this dear lady.

To me being a Dom is about leadership to an extent. Better to lead those this are confident in you leadership and will obey with out question because whatever you ask they know it is only for the best intentions and goals not always apparent that a request is given. Than to follow and not to trust.

As a rule I ask subs to do things rather than demand or command. I don't like to do as I'm told to do so why should anyone else? Requesting gives the choice to the sub and if I have the respect and command I seek to encourage I am confident the request will be carried out without question.