I'm loving this thread and thank you to All for your input. It's encouraging to hear that many of you take the responsibility to heart and that you are paying attention to the mental/emotional side of these relationships.

For me that's where it's all at - in the mind and I've been finding it difficult to find a Dominant who truly believes the same. I've spoken with many who have tried to 'fake' it because they know it's what a subbie wants to hear but then it isn't long before you suss them out and see really all they are after is a cheap, kinky thrill. What they don't know is that unless the trust and emotional levels are there, I would never 'play' with them anyway lol

Thanks again, this is awesome to see