Quote Originally Posted by crazy_grrluk View Post
sub drop doesnt nes have to occur after sub-space... it can occur at any time. for example when your Dominant partner has to go away.

I can remember experiancing "sub-drop" after S1 went back to AU the 1st christmas he came to stay with us here in the UK. Was awful having to drop him off at Heathrow Airport so he could catch his flight home. I cried all the way back up the motorway and then bawled again as soon as I got to work.
The worst part was coming back home to an empty house and also going to bed alone. I felt betrayed, alone and not wanted.
Only after he landed back in Melbourne and contacted me was I ok.
I never want to have that feeling ever again.

cg
I know the first time i went to my Masters house it was the most wonderful, awesome, spectacular feeling/experience ever. When i got on the train to go home i cried most of the 6hr trip home. i was devastated. i thought for sure i would never see him again, or he had changed his mind about me, etc. it was emotionally exhausting to go from such a high to such a low. i was depressed and insecure for about a week. I questioned Him and i questioned myself. I was basically a mess. i hated the sleeping alone part as well. He was very understanding about the whole thing, we talked a great deal about how i was feeling. It was very comforting to have him explain things to me a little bit, as this was one of the first r/l play sessions with him. it's happened a few times, since then, but now i am more aware of why i feel this way and he is more aware that sometimes i need a little more care after. not sure if this is the answer you were looking for but this is just my experience.