Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
A good rule in the BDSM world is

experienced + experienced = good
experienced + inexperienced = good
inexperienced + inexperienced = bad

I know not every person fits the mold. But most do.
Quote Originally Posted by alpha_Straye View Post
that's really good advice... the blind leading the blind isnt such a hot idea, no matter how tempting people might find it. it seems to end up in people hurting much too often....

Yes it is excellent advice on Tom's part, but inexperienced is not always a bad thing.
I don't view it as inexperience but a person who siezes an opportunity to thier advantage without worrying about the reprocussions of the other person who is not using the situation as such.
Inexperience is what everyone starts out with, it is what you do with it that is important. A person who is serious learns and takes thier time and garners the help of others.

For every one person you meet that is serious in learning, you will meet a hundred others who are not.
It's just the way it is.

And yeah I know I have been talking too much this weekend. I am just bored.