i'm absolutely NO expert on the subject, but is it possible that newsub21 (who is now 23! LOL!) has grown, emotionally, and is leaning towards a more Dominant side? Isn't that how it works? How switches develop? I know that within my submissiveness, i submerge...submissive is what i am, and i'm happy there....but i'm also 50 years old, having just identified my true nature only 4 years ago. Isn't it possible that newsub has reached a point where he feels the need to stretch and grow? Can it possibly be that simple?