How do you approach the hard questions????

[_ID_]

The hard questions should be asked first IMO. If you can get past those, the rest of the questions should be easy. If the hard questions come up as you discuss things, then ask them at that time.

I would say though that you should ask them in trickle... let the person you're talking to feel like it's a conversation, not an inquisition. Less chance to cause a feeling of needing to be defensive.

[thrall]

The hard questions should be asked first IMO. If you can get past those, the rest of the questions should be easy. If the hard questions come up as you discuss things, then ask them at that time.

I would say though that you should ask them in trickle... let the person you're talking to feel like it's a conversation, not an inquisition. Less chance to cause a feeling of needing to be defensive.

I agree....

I ask the hard questions up front. But every now and then something comes up that needs to be asked......and its those unexpected questions that always get me into trouble.......

[Tojo]

Well you strike me as someone with a good deal of courage thrall- I believe we get out of life what we put into.

That applies in just about everything we do-any relationship takes a lot of work.


No pain, no gain!

[nighttimestar]

I agree....

I ask the hard questions up front. But every now and then something comes up that needs to be asked......and its those unexpected questions that always get me into trouble.......

But its through those hard times when ask those unexpected questions....That you grow. Think about the last time you did.

Were you scared did you skirt around the subjuct or question? Where were you looking when you asked the question up down, at him?? What did you feel after the words were out of your mouth? Relief, aniexty? What did you feel when you got a response? was it one you wanted? did you feel the weight lifted off your shoulders? were you able to breathe easier? or were you more confused and frustrated and angery b/c you didn't get the answer you want?