Being afraid to ask the question doesn't make the problem go away any. And if it was something that was important to me, it would just sit and fester.... much better to clear the air and deal with the consequences. I am not really a fan of living a lie anyways.

In my relationship, I am not allowed to keep secrets. This includes keeping worries and concerns to myself. If I have a problem, I am expected to go to him with it. By extension, this means that if I am questioning anything about him, I am damn well expected to ask the question.

Master, in turn, is always open and honest, and often more than a little bit blunt. He will sometimes give a warning of "Do you really want to know?" and if you answer yes, you are gonna get the truth. He has found it to be a fairly effective technique when people ask about our relationship. Most of the time the person doing the asking decides that in fact, they really don't want to know.