Trust (or lack thereof)

[casie1124]

In a relationship, D/s or otherwise, who is responsible when it comes to trust? Does trust need to be earned, or is it something that should be freely given?
I don't think trust should ever be given freely. Being trust worthy is a quality one must prove they have
If there is mistrust, who is at fault? The person who has the feelings of doubt, or the one is isn't being trusted?Depends on the situation if the person not being trusted gave the other a valid reason not to trust them than thats on them, however if the person who is not trusted has done nothing and the person not trusting them is doing so out of insecruity or whatever reason than then it is on them and their problem.

What if there aren't any reasons to be mistrustful, but it is just a result of insecurity? How is this best dealt with?Again depends on the person and situation. The only thing you can do is try to reassure them you are trust worthy. If that don't work then typically the relationship doesn't work

What happens when blind trust is provided, but undeserved?In some cases that person may turn out to be trusth worthy and nothing happens. Other times the person may turn out to be incredibly untrustworthy then in the end you end up either in a physically, or emotionally dangerous situation.

Is it enough to just say "trust me?" In my opionon no.l

More specific to a D/s context, what if a Dom states that if his sub does not trust him, she will be released? Thats understandable all relationships require trust if it's not there it won't work. If the dom has done everything in their power to prove their they are to be trusted and the sub still can't bring her self around she probably isn't ready for the relationship anyhow

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Casie

[gemmy]

Thats understandable all relationships require trust if it's not there it won't work. If the dom has done everything in their power to prove their they are to be trusted and the sub still can't bring her self around she probably isn't ready for the relationship anyhow

I completely agree here as I know some people just cannot help themselves and have to needle it all to death and it becomes far too wearing on the relationship but this is something that should become quite clear rather quickly I would imagine. Also, if they have progressed with time and patience into the relationship, then said sub shouldn't have been collared to begin with