Protocol?

[Mr.FixIt]

My sub and I, long before she agreed to be my sub, agreed to not go anywhere without each other. I cannot fathom her leaving our home to meet someone without me--with miles of distance between us--or my agreement to such a scenario. I know that most of the world is a lot more comfortable with the concept, but I would never set her up to meet someone w/o me. And she would not either. But, we are old souls, and we are a little different than most. What a situation to put her in! Surely she would find some forum for advice. Thankfully, the advice that (most) of you have provided has been well-intentioned. However, We would simply feel that a person in a devoted (or Dom/sub) relationship would never allow this type of meeting to occur. Please do not misunderstand, there is no judgement implied here--I just cannot comprehend how this type of meeting would be appropriate or justified.

[lily27]

My sub and I, long before she agreed to be my sub, agreed to not go anywhere without each other. I cannot fathom her leaving our home to meet someone without me--with miles of distance between us--or my agreement to such a scenario. I know that most of the world is a lot more comfortable with the concept, but I would never set her up to meet someone w/o me. And she would not either. But, we are old souls, and we are a little different than most. What a situation to put her in! Surely she would find some forum for advice. Thankfully, the advice that (most) of you have provided has been well-intentioned. However, We would simply feel that a person in a devoted (or Dom/sub) relationship would never allow this type of meeting to occur. Please do not misunderstand, there is no judgement implied here--I just cannot comprehend how this type of meeting would be appropriate or justified.

I think that is a very interesting angle that no one has brought up yet. I understand that there is no judgement intended, and I don't have any either, but it is an important point to make.

If I wanted to meet another submissive I am pretty sure Master would easily find it suitable to grant permission. However, meeting a Dom would be a different story. I just yelled down the hallway at him "If I was travelling and wanted to meet a Dom, would you let me?" He replied "It depends... now I am going to bed," so we will have to discuss this one further tomorrow.

If it was someone that he knew personally, then perhaps. I am not sure if he would be willing to send me to meet a stranger.

Food for thought, definitely.

And welcome to the Forums, Mr. Fix It.