I think Warbaby and Tessa summed it up for me.

I require that I can trust my partner in a relationship. So I just do. I assume everything that flows from her mouth is divine truth and that her actions are noble. Why? Because it gives me peace of mind.

I don't look for inconsistencies in behaviour, and if I'd find proof anyway, I wouldn't start a whole blame circus. I'd just end it. Say I'm not in love any more, (which then would be true) and move. on.

I choose to be naive and I have been taken advantage of. But I think that in the long run, it's worth it.

And now I've met a woman with the same attitude. I've never heard a sentence of questioning my sincerity from her mouth, and she's never heard any from mine. And I'd never accept anything less.

Trust in a relationship is for me critical. If my slave/gf/wife doesn't trust me, the relationship is as far as I'm concerned over. So is it if I don't trust her. I don't care if she's got baggage. So have I. So has everybody. I wouldn't get involved with anybody who hasn't gotten over it already.