Quote Originally Posted by lily27 View Post
Yes, that's right. It is spelt with a "u".

So I have been thinking about honour lately. Specifically, how is it determined if you have honour, or you are an honourable person?

I mean, you can decide to do the "honourable thing".... or maybe live by a "code of honour".... but when you "have honour" is that something other people have to decide for you, or is it something you can declare for yourself?

Can you really announce in a huff, "at least I have my honour!" if nobody agrees with you?

Honour is a quality or trait that is often attributed to Dominants. In the Gorean lifestyle it is considered to be very important. But how do you get it?

I think this is a word we toss around an awful lot, to the point that the meaning behind it is vague at best. So what do you think? What does honour really mean??
Hello All~

I think True Honour is a trait that boils down to Respect from inside a Person, to the outside. And starts with Self Respect. I think the Quality of True Honour is many things beyond that. It is being Responsible, Accountable, Honest, Reasonable, Trustworthy, and Balanced, all at the same time. Even when it isn't easy, or what One may like to do. I think it's also Knowing that just because One can do something, doesn't mean One always should.

Someone who has Honour *to me* is Someone who can see the bigger picture, and beyond what They may may want on a whim. They consider the consequences to Themselves and Other's, of what They may wish to do. And They Balance all things with a scale of right and wrong. One who has Honour never does wrong Knowingly. If They do wrong They try to correct that wrong.

I think Other's Know when a Person has Honour or not, if They actually Know that Person. I don't think Anyone gives it to a Person, or can take it away.

As always just my thoughts, experience, and perception.

Respectfully~SidheWolf