Quote Originally Posted by Alex Bragi View Post
She has regular meetings with another man, in fact apparently she often uses that to humiliate her submissive--telling him what a great fuck he is and that kind of thing. He masturbates but rarely gets an erection when they're actually playing. The relationship is happy, well, that is to say, they're both find it very satisfying.
You just said here they they're both sexually satisfying each other. As I see it there are two relevant definitions for sex:

1) Reproduction.
2) Good feelings and intimate social bonding involving our sexual organs. The brain is a sexual organ.

Just because he takes the sexual tension her domme creates and later flogs his dolphin doesn't mean that his later satisfaction from masturbating isn't connected to the former.

I think he's confusing the two definitions.