Yeah desperation is definitely not helpful! That'll get you into all sorts of trouble...

I can tell you for a fact that you're not alone- I've spoken to many subs who want nothing less than a formal D/s relationship. Some who are in a relationship, but the guy isn't dominant or confident enough.

There's no advice anyone can give you, apart from doing as you are- talking about how you feel. Post away, PM people, try the chatroom if it works for you, & know that you're not alone.

Good luck & let us know how it goes.