Quote Originally Posted by pettobecaged View Post
I have found that ever since the slave in me was discovered (it was last summer. I was kinky before but didn't realize and/or accept how kinky)anyway - ever since the slave in me was discovered, I have had a hard time coping with real life. I was introduced to the idea of being someone's slave, and then the relationship didn't end up working out. Ever since then, I have felt like someone performed open heart surgery on me, but then never closed me back up and left me on the operating table. It makes me desperate to find a master - and I realize desperation is never helpful. I just wondered if others have felt this way and/or if anyone might have some advice. Thank you!
I understand how you are feeling. What I have found... is decide what you want/need in a dominate and then stick to your guns in trying to find that in a person. Even when you get desperate if you revisit that list and determine what you can settle for based on what you truly want you can find that the list helps to prevent a reaction out of the "desperates."

Past that... how to actually deal in real life... all I can say is, the best you can and just don't give up... you are worth it!