I have to agree with lily in that everyone will have differing opinions on who is fantastic and who is an asshat... (I'm so happy I got to use the word "asshat" today! )

You've posted several threads so far, keep an eye out for those who responses you consider thoughtful and helpful. PM them, ask them to expand on their thoughts and if they are wiling to help ask them for further mentoring. I would also add that it might not be a bad idea to ask one or two of the subs to mentor. I am fairly new to the Lifestyle myself, and I have had just as much luck and benefit listening to the submissives out there as I have the Doms. Good luck!