Well, minx, if it was for a large amount, let's say an airfare, *ss* then I think you should be demanding it, rather than making 'polite requests'.

I'm not sure how you stand legally, but I think possibly you may have a case if you could prove you gained no benefit from said costs incurred (at his request). Otherwise, I guess you just have to put it down to a lesson in life.

And, yes, I agree it's very disappointing to be let down like this by a man professing to be, as you say, "honorable".

Does it bother him? I would hope it would, enough so for him to do the honorable thing by you.