i dont want to distract from the thread sorry but i would like to add something to this, some BDSM games can be a potential 'trigger' for anyone who's more susceptible (generally those with mental health related problem) if you have any issues from the past,it can be in some ways therapuetic but its also taking a big risk so its always a good idea to think very seriously about certain games/roles you might be considering playing, what may come up and how you and your partner will deal with it if anything should do.