I belong to another (non-BDSM) forum where someone brought up the topic of women's fantasies. Because he was going strictly by his own wife, he was convinced that either we women don't have fantasies or they are all of the "romance, roses, moonlight and knight in shining armor" type fantasies. He had no idea that we women have actual sexual fantasies that have nothing to do with love or romance. When I told him my most treasured fantasy and the fact that I've had it since I was a teenager (which is a different fantasy from the one I posted here on the "What's Your #1 Fantasy" thread here) and all he could say was, "WOW! I never knew women could have fantasies like that!" Then he wanted to know what porn movie I'd watched to come up with it. Excuse me, but I've had this particular fantasy since I was about 12 or so. I didn't see my first porn film until I was almost 30. I AM capable of using my own imagination!

I've never been ashamed of any of my fantasies. However, I don't know if I'd really want them to become reality. For one thing, from what I've heard from other people, fantasies and real life don't always match up and a lot of times when you finally live the fantasy it's a bust. And I worry that my fantasies would be downright dangerous in real life. And I also worry that they would somehow threaten my relationship with my Master should W/we choose to have them become reality.

So I think that I would rather keep my fantasies as strictly fantasies.