For me personally I can't have sex with someone whom I don't love. That might be why I have only had one "casual affair" and one one night stand and why I have no desire to play casually with people I don't really know. For me, sex and love are intertwined and always will be. Logically I can see where people don't equate one with the other, but that's not how I'm wired. I don't have sexual desire for men I don't love. Sure, I have fantasies about it, about having wild and crazy sex with complete strangers or being shared with Master's friends. Will I ever do it? No. I can physically have sex with people I don't love, of course, but I don't enjoy it. It makes me feel lost and empty. I need the emotions involved. I need the care, the closeness, the emotional sharing between two people. For me, sex has never be, nor will ever be, only about physical pleasure. For me, sex has always been, and always will be, equated with love. Other people are fully capable of enjoying sex without any emotions involved. I, however, am not one of them.