First let me say that i think You both are very wise. To even my surprise, there is no sarcasm implied with that sentence.

my r/l boyfriend and Master, have just entered into a D/s relationship and trust me, what you read in books, and see on the internet is just a little bit different than what happens in O/our home, especially when i have a headache or am not in a good mood. i will be the first to admit that W/we are not the poster couple for BDSM by any means.

i think it boils down to an individual couple's wants and desires. i also believe that BDSM guidelines are necessary, as just that "guidelines". In the beginning, W/we all need information and resources. For me personally, the internet has been a great place for information, ideas, support, etc. Following that, each couple has to decide what works for T/them and to what extent T/they choose to play out the fantasy and/or lifestyle.

i will however vent about one thing.... i do have a problem with being in a BDSM chatroom and being corrected, on my salutations or my typing, by an "online only" Master. i believe that if anyone has the authority to correct a sub, much less in public, it should be that subs Master. i don't think that the foundation of BDSM will be shaken OR fold, if i don't type Sir or You.

Ok, so i never said that i didn't ramble. Hopefully, i will not get slammed too hard on my thoughts, as it is my opinion only.


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