Romanticising BDSM Relationships

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I think it's very hard for people, even in a 24/7 relationship, to maintain a strictly BDSM atmosphere all the time. I know that my wife and I take downtime every now and then just to kind of cool off and reprise what we're doing and where we want to go next.

And don't EVEN try to get my wife to do the BDSM thing around "that time of the month." Surest way in the world to get hit back. LOL

You actually brought up a point that I should have written in that article. I guess I forgot it at the time, because I didn't have an example of it smacking me in the head.

The capitalization of You, My, Mine and Sir as required by a dominant tends to show me low self-esteem. Worse is when they require it from every single submissive and slave that they meet. In my opinion, it just shows an inferiority complex and they probably should go for some therapy to a BDSM-friendly psychologist.

I don't require anyone to capitalize anything about me except my name. After all, it's just type. Big deal. If the person were speaking to you and called you sir, would you ask them if they meant capital Sir?

I practiced and researched BDSM for a long time before I started online and things are so different online from my real-life, it's probably not even funny.

An example: To be honest, I didn't know about collaring a submissive for any reason other than to have a place to attach a rope or lead to the neck until I started coming online. I had read about collaring slaves in the Gor books and I had probably read about submissives being collared, but never really took it to mind as it had never entered into any of my relationships to that point.

Needless to say, when I did come online, I was a little confused as to the concept of the collar. Which led to a few interesting dilemmas. Fortunately, I was able to read the "accepted BDSM websites" and correct my faux-pas before I made myself look like too much of an idiot.

So, Xarine (my wife, not her real name) and I do have a collar with a little tag on it that says she belongs to me, but she never really wears it anymore except to public functions where we might meet people from online. Mostly, she wears a bracelet I bought her on ebay. It's a simple piece of silver, but it is a representation of her commitment to me. And that's all a collar is anyway, right?

Well, well, this is turning into another novel. I should be paying Day Three this much attention, but I'm kind of having fun being on the boards today.

Bear with me, people. The coffee will wear off soon.