The Perfect Dom

[ashtonDs]

I recently visited a site where a slave girl said in no uncertain terms something to the effect, "I could never respect a Dom that bottomed for someone else." She went on to say that hers is a "real" Dom, all the time.

It is not possible to be dominant at all times. If this "real" Dom lands his little behind in traffic court I don't think he'll be trying to top the judge. Even "the most powerful person in the world" the President, says "yes dear" and does what his wife asks. No one is a Dom all the time.

If they try to tell you otherwise they're not a real Dom.

[Ozme52]

I recently visited a site where a slave girl said in no uncertain terms something to the effect, "I could never respect a Dom that bottomed for someone else." She went on to say that hers is a "real" Dom, all the time.

It is not possible to be dominant at all times. If this "real" Dom lands his little behind in traffic court I don't think he'll be trying to top the judge. Even "the most powerful person in the world" the President, says "yes dear" and does what his wife asks. No one is a Dom all the time.

If they try to tell you otherwise they're not a real Dom.

I think this mixes apples and oranges as they say. Deferring to someone else under the appropriate circumstances does not imply one is bottoming to them.

I've never kowtowed before a judge... nor have I tried to top one. You state your case and he judges. As far as I'm concerned, he's there to top the cop if the cop is in the wrong... and if I was in the wrong, I just pay my fine. And if we meet outside the courtroom, I talk to him as an equal as I do everyone, sub or dom, lifestyle or vanilla.

I also talk to my own sub as an equal. Just because her role is different than mine doesn't make her some kind of lesser person... (or have I strayed off concept?)