That first meeting

[sidhewolf]

Once in a while I’m reminded that forums such as this serve the purpose of informing new people, and not just for a select few to preen their egos and flirt.

That’s the reason I come to places such as this- to counter the nonsense talked on some sites about how a sub ‘should’ and shouldn’t act, and that there’s a secret book of rules mouldering in a cave somewhere in Turkey.

Some would have us believe that unless we’ve done an apprenticeship with an approved school, we’re just playing at D/s and not real Doms or subs.

With that in mind, I’d like to ask for people’s experiences in meeting for the first time.

Have you taken an online relationship to the next step- of meeting in person? How did it go? What are the do’s and don’ts of that first meet? How long did you chat or whatever before you met? Did you have a clear understanding of what would take place- & what wouldn't?

I’d like to point out that few people will post their negative experiences. Many either disappear, or just decide it’s too painful to remember- I’ve had more chats and emails from disappointed subs than I’d care to remember and know I’m not alone.

Yes, I have met with PPL I have e-met, the one I am in now for one. I don't term an online person a "Relationship" until or unless I meet that person ITF. I realize that's Me and not how Everyone see's these things. And that's ok.

"Do's and Don'ts of first meeting" > DO meet in a Public Place (OR) have a Safety Net set up if you Choose to meet in a private one. If things go well Great. If they don't One can at least be Safe.

For this Relationship We talked a couple months online and phone before actually meeting ITF. For Other's I have met from online the timeframe has varied from a couple conversations to years of communications. At the same time the Meeting ITF conditions have varied as widely. 2 Rules of thumb *for me* 1) Public 1st Meeting (OR) 2) Safety Net. There is no #3.

"Have a clear understanding of what would or wouldn't take place at the first meeting"; Always! Though I have at times been open to a variance

Respectfully~SidheWolf