... was the third post of this thread. I kinda slipped it in there secretly. I didn't want anyone to know that was it. LOL

Pooka, I like what you said a lot. My wife and I don't have the classical BDSM relationship either, but we do have a great d/s relationship and we have kinky sex. Between us, it's more of an unspoken thing. We acknowledge who we are and we try to fine tune what it is we want from time to time.

I think we want to be more serious about BDSM in our relationship. We used to be very, very active and would toy with bondage, discipline and about every toy in the book that didn't involve electricity or blood. but we have since settled into a more routine relationship.

What did I mean by role-playing? Mostly, I meant online. People can go into any chat they want and act out whatever fantasy they want, including being someone of the opposite sex (That's right, guys. 60% of all 'women' in chats are really men, so be careful.). But, unfortunately, online-related BDSM issues now extend beyond the chat room. Curtseying, for example, seems to have made its way into the home and the play party. I cannot understand why.

I have heard that for every 100 people online involved in a particular fetish, there are 2 (one couple) that do it in real-life. That means, out of 100 people that have a scat fetish online, there is one couple that really do it at home regularly. Or for every 100 people in Gorean chats online, there is one couple that really practices the Gorean lifestyle. At least, however you do that on the real Earth. It's an interesting and alarming statistic. It basically means that anything you can think of as a fetish, no matter how repulsive, silly, or stupid, there are people out there that do it. That also means that people are learning from online. Oh god! I have an article for this, too. *Hides head in hands*

Argh! I did not want to write another novel in here. I guess I'm just too opinionated for my own good. I think that was all I wanted to say this time. At least I hope it was. I'm getting really wordy in here.