Quote Originally Posted by Tojo View Post
Do we need to be perfect? Should we be able to accept criticism and admit that we make mistakes?

For some reason this reminded me of “Secretary”. The movie was an average art flick with not much relevance to BDSM community, but one thing that struck me (and I am sure it was purely incidental on their part) was how full of doubt and imperfect the Dominant was.

Its true that there are submissives who build up impossible fairytale expectations about a perfect Dominant who will come and sweep them of their feet, not unlike knight in shining armour, forgetting one crucial fact – Dominant is a human being.
And sometimes Dominant’s forget that its ok for them to be human.

Basis of a good Dom is that he is mindful of his submissive and aware that its impossible for submissive to grow into her submission if he insists he is perfect and doesn’t grow as a Dominant. But I think you already have that covered.

I don’t see Dominant and submissive relationship as one better than another, but rather as two equals of the whole. They are complimentary, each brining into the relationship what the other needs.

Even if it were possible to achieve universal ideal of perfection (whatever that may be), who would want that? Perfection is mind-numbingly boring. Joy comes from the journey, not from reaching the destination.