The Perfect Dom

[TomOfSweden]

Do we need to be perfect? Should we be able to accept criticism and admit that we make mistakes?

Frankly, I see being unable to admit you’re ever wrong, and the inability to accept criticism or be questioned, as character defects that a Dom in particular could do without.

I suspect this is a generation thing. My fathers generation aspired to be perfect. Mine doesn't. I certainly don't. I just do my best and hope I learn along the way.

Also I think that even if I hypothetically might at one point know everything I'd still fuck it up. "Perfection" is relative and shifts a lot depending on who does the observing. It's just one of those philosophical terms which people use as if they had a universally accepted concrete meaning, when they don't. Talking about abstractions is always very difficult. People will always load them with their own connotations. It's hard not to.

[jeanne]

I'm with blizz - my Dom is perfect...for me. I adore Him the most when something doesn't go quite the way He planned and He laughs and says things like "well, that was a lot better in theory". It makes Him even easier to trust, and me even more willing to give Him everything He wants.

Oh! Something else - when He asks my advice because He says I know more about something than He...I just mentally fall at His feet. In the best way possible.

[Tojo]

I suspect this is a generation thing. My fathers generation aspired to be perfect. Mine doesn't. I certainly don't. I just do my best and hope I learn along the way.

Also I think that even if I hypothetically might at one point know everything I'd still fuck it up. "Perfection" is relative and shifts a lot depending on who does the observing. It's just one of those philosophical terms which people use as if they had a universally accepted concrete meaning, when they don't. Talking about abstractions is always very difficult. People will always load them with their own connotations. It's hard not to.

Yep, a very good point, the generation thing. My old man always had to be 'right' no matter what. I don't ever remember him admitting to getting something wrong until he hit his late sixties, & then it was rare.

Perhaps that's why it bugs me when I see people who refuse to admit they EVER could be wrong- I know how hard that is for the unitiated to live up to.

Whippett- no car is perfect, if they were they'd have two wheels & handlbars.

[Ozme52]

Whippett- no car is perfect, if they were they'd have two wheels & handlbars.

You got that right!!