Originally posted by BDSM_Tourguide
[B]... was the third post of this thread. I kinda slipped it in there secretly. I didn't want anyone to know that was it. LOL!
Ah, I see!


[..] We acknowledge who we are and we try to fine tune what it is we want from time to time.

I think we want to be more serious about BDSM in our relationship. We used to be very, very active and would toy with bondage, discipline and about every toy in the book that didn't involve electricity or blood. but we have since settled into a more routine relationship.
There oughta be a place for folks like us.

We were never active outside our own home, though we were on discussion lists and we never had a lot of toys (though we wanted them . And we aren't even adverse to blood or even electricity per se.

But we are at a point where what we want is something we can't seem to pinpoint. For both of us, kinky sex is about exploring the mind and body, taking it to new heights, stretching the senses outward in all ways. The play isn't related to our power exchange or to underscore what we are to each other, it's a way to fully explore all aspects of sexuality and the human brain. Though I will add that some of the kinky play has it's roots in fears or issues that linger desite rationally knowing the reasons for them. It is rather therapuetic at times.

But we too have not been able to reach our ideal space yet in that arena as real life tends to intrude. *grin* Who knew that career, kids, a home and all that could sap so much time and energy not to mention privacy?


(That's right, guys. 60% of all 'women' in chats are really men, so be careful.). But, unfortunately, online-related BDSM issues now extend beyond the chat room. Curtseying, for example, seems to have made its way into the home and the play party. I cannot understand why.
I'm so glad I don't travel in BDSM circles anymore!


It's an interesting and alarming statistic. It basically means that anything you can think of as a fetish, no matter how repulsive, silly, or stupid, there are people out there that do it. That also means that people are learning from online. Oh god! I have an article for this, too. *Hides head in hands*
Do it! I wonder how many other areas have the same ratios? Now that is a scary thought! I'm of the opinion that as adults, we are responsible for what we 'learn' on-line or any other place. If the individuals don't take responsibility or do their own research, they have only themselves to blame if something goes wrong. Reality is the ultimate judge on such matters so it pays to take some responsibility in what you do.


Argh! I did not want to write another novel in here. I guess I'm just too opinionated for my own good. I think that was all I wanted to say this time. At least I hope it was. I'm getting really wordy in here.
LOL! Hey, but good words, rarely heard!

Pooka