The sad thing is everywhere on the web there are subs who are looking for the perfect Dom/me. And on top of that they look down on and/or get angry with those who try to point out the impossibility of their quest. The only thing sadder are the subs who think they have already found it. It's like they read too many BDSM stories and believe them all.


Listening to, or reading their postings, they all sound very lazy. The perfect Dom/me is like Prince Charming, get taken away and life happily ever after is perfect. No effort need be expended on their part. Master or Mistress Charming knows whatever they need without asking and gives it to them. Then, boom. Reality sucks sometimes. A burnt hand is the only teacher they will listen to. (Then again, maybe not. They would probably blame themselves.)

It's too scary to think about someone pushing me into that role, and they would have to push. I'd never take it on myself. But I don't have to worry about that. I'm going to have a like-minded switch. Then we would only need to be perfect half the time.