The Perfect Dom

[Ozme52]

I often think new people can get the wrong impression from sites such as this, for the simple reason that some Doms- often the most vocal ones, seem compelled to create an impression of unquestionable perfection.

From memory, it was Isabelle who came up with the line ‘I couldn’t respect a Dom who lacked humility’

Do we need to be perfect? Should we be able to accept criticism and admit that we make mistakes?

Frankly, I see being unable to admit you’re ever wrong, and the inability to accept criticism or be questioned, as character defects that a Dom in particular could do without.

I've been offline for 4 days... if I'm rehashing what others say it's not by intent.

There's a huge difference between someone boasting "unquestionable perfection" and someone who is just "supremely confident." But being able to readily tell the difference between the two can be challenging.

Ultimately, imo, subs want the latter. It makes them feel safe where the former might do just the opposite. Accepting that one can make mistakes and improve is part of it... but, being one of the supremely confident you'd have to have a pretty convincing arguement that I'm mistaken. I won't just take someone's word for it.

As far as humility is concerned... yes, maybe, if you think a D/s relationship should be sub-centric, but in one that is dom-centric, isn't humility more appropriately within the sub's domain?

Humility is the state of being humble (meriam-webster)
Humble is:

1: not proud or haughty : not arrogant or assertive
2: reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission <a humble apology>
3 a: ranking low in a hierarchy or scale : insignificant, unpretentious b: not costly or luxurious <a humble contraption>

By that definition, you can't be humble and be dominant. Unless you want to use different definitions or pick and choose which parts of the definition you mean.