Am I outwardly obvious to others in the nilla world that look at me? By and large, that would be no. There are little things that if a lifestyle person were to watch me and my wife together, they would probably assume she is Domme and I was submissive. This is cause how I treat her. I open doors for her, help her with her coat, I let her sit and get drinks. Why is it this way, cause I wanted this way thats why. So am I identifiable, most likely not. Now if you talk to me about any social subject that includes the relationship of man and woman, it will quickly become apparent what role I take.