An odd but interesting experience -- I worked with "Tom" for over 15 years. He and I each "knew" about one another but never said a word. Then a few years ago I got interested in figuring out what it was that I was feeling and wanted -- so one afternoon in his office I mentioned a "web site" I had visited in a non-committal way. He looked at me, smiled slowly and said "Don't put too much stock in what you read online."

Turns out that he is dominant to his wife and they've been active in the lifestyle for over 15 years. He's become an informal mentor as I find my way through all of this.

hJ