Am I easily identifiable? Yes and no people will clearly see that I'am a submissive and my wife the dominant one but they are very unlikely to know that we are into the kink lifestyle. From my experience whether your into bdsm or not there is always a dominant and a submissive in any relationship and those parts are the only parts that show through, unless of course you walk around in a leather bustier cracking a whip. So yes it is very easy to tell if someone is a sub or dom but not likely your going to find out if there into the lifestyle.