Not offended at all, Rowen, quite the contrary. Love takes its own form, and trying to make it fit in a place it is not shaped to fit can indeed be disastrous. Life has presented J and I with a set of circumstances that need to be dealt with before we have the freedom to pursue our relationship unencumbered. Although we both would dearly love to act like these circumstances do not exist and go on about the business of our love for love's sake, this cannot be the case or we will destroy what we have. It sounds as if you understand this completely, and I thank you for posting.