Quote Originally Posted by Warbaby1943
But wouldn't that be just the kink interpretation? Admittedly I am not an expert but I have never heard of a sub or Dom in the vanilla world, which I've lived in for a few years.

Without guessing the BDSM part it would just be "she's a bossy bitch" or he is a "male chauvinist pig." If you add the kink element then it becomes more obvious, I would think. Just my opinion.
Acutally there is always someone who is submissive and someone who is dominant in any relationship just varying degrees. It wouldn't work otherwise.Opposites do attract. I actually know quite a lot of people who are submissive and dominant but not into the bdsm lifestyle. They just want to be taken care of or take care of someone else. If you judge the kink lifestyle by egther being a sub or dom then everyone is into it