Quote Originally Posted by loveslave
I actually know quite a lot of people who are submissive and dominant but not into the bdsm lifestyle. They just want to be taken care of or take care of someone else. If you judge the kink lifestyle by egther being a sub or dom then everyone is into it
I agree but without actually talking about it with them I am only guessing that they are not into the kink lifestyle. Although I'm sure most are not.

I was originally thinking about some subtle outward sign that would be an obvious giveaway of someone into BDSM interests. There just may not be any subtle signs of this. The giveaway signs may just always have to be very obvious, I really don't know.