I think that in trying too hard to find the perfect partner, dom sub whatever it is possible to miss what can sometimes be right in front of you. I firmly believe that right partners find each other, one does not hunt down and track another.

I also agree with TomOfSweden in that you need to be brave,bite the bullet and get yourself out there, let people know what you are seeking.

My advice would be to relax, enjoy and be yourself and look to hang out in suitable places, visit like sites and chat with like minded people.

We all have our soul mate out there somewhere, be you and you will find each other