How to find a master?

[Alex Bragi]

...and even bad relationships are educational. If you don't know how to pick the right guy, pick any guy that has something you fancy and figure out why you don't like him, (or like). Having a fling with someone doesn't mean you'll automatically marry and carry his child.

While I agree even bad relationships are "educational", I'm not convinced your "... pick any guy ..." advice is great, Tom. I mean, we're not talking about picking a chocolate out of a box here, we're talking about people.

I know there's Christians here who claim their religion looks down upon sex before marriage or slutting about. To that I say fuck 'em. It's a pure evil dogma with no positive outcome. There is nothing good about that attitude. It will set you up for ignorance regarding what you are looking for in a relationship. There's only one way to find out, and that is to have a taste at all the things that look good and seem appealing at the buffet.

Well, I'm an agnostic, yet I can still clearly see the benefits of having a limited number of sexual partners. I believe this "evil dogma" does, in fact, have a positive out come and will continue to have until we find a 100% safe and reliable form of contraception and cure for aids and all the other stds. Not to mention the attitudes of more than half of Frenchmen, who when recently questioned, claimed that while they believed in sex before marriage, they still wanted to marry virgins." Or, here in Australia, where of 57,000 men polled by men's magazine FHM, 28 per cent hoped to marry a virgin, while 41 per cent wanted a bride who had five partners or fewer, and just 5 per cent wanted a bride who had slept with more than 15 men. While you're obviously a very modern and broadminded man, Tom, today's women still need to be a little prudent.

I know a girl who had a relationship with a body builder just because she was curious about his physical limits in bed. Just for fun. She wasn't particularly attracted to huge muscles. It was just a fun experiment. Was it cruel toward the body builder? No it wasn't. He wanted her and he got to have her for a while. Which is better than never having her, isn't it?

Was it cruel? Well, that depends, Tom, on exactly how honest she was with him, doesn't it? I mean if she said, straight up front, "Hey, I'm really curious about your huge muscles and physical limits in bed, so let's fuck so I can find out, but please don't go expecting anything else from me..." then that's fair enough. On the other hand if she lead him to believe she was genuinely interested in him with the possibly of having a long term relationship then it wouldn't be so good.

Not all relationships are super serious. Even if that is your goal... every relationships will start out like just a fling and grow with time.

Well, I guess everyone's different.