Quote Originally Posted by blythespirit View Post
Yes, indeedy, that's what you wrote but that's hardly the same, in my opinon, as fearing the loss of job and family.
But nobody ever has, and you won't? Has this happened to anybody? Ever? How isn't this just pure paranoia? But I don't think it's paranoia. I think you're just being shy but not admitting it to yourself. There's nothing wrong with being shy. I think it is very cute in moderate doses. We've all been in a situation where we've been shy and had to over-come it. We can all empathise. Just admit it! You won't lose anything.

What are we truly attracted to in a person? Their strengths or their faults? We like to think we're attracted to a persons strengths, but its really not.. is it? We like our partners to be weak in some way. If they aren't we'd be useless. Then we wouldn't fill a function in your partners life. That's hardly being a partner is it? And it doesn't give any security, since we'd be replaceable like a pair of pants.

So you've got nothing fear, have you? Embrace your shyness. It's useless to deny it. It's not like anybody is going to think anything else are they? Either people will think that you're bullshitting or a little bit cute. What do you think will play to your advantage in the long run?