Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
It may be that the fantasy itself is a bit much for reality. But here's what I do with those fantasies that are a little too much...I look at them for common threads and things that can be done in reality. For example, if I have a couple of particularly intense fantasies involving extreme humiliation, I can recognize that humiliation is a turn-on for me, and when the opportunity to gently begin exploring that in reality appears, I'm ready to see what happens. I've gained some self-knowledge, and with a willing partner can explore that particular desire safely.

As for the shame - I'm with others on that. Societal programming can do a number on us.
Thank you jeanne (good to see your posts again - missed having you around hun)

I will have to figure out in my head what makes me feel like that I suppose and see if I can draw the same lines as you mention