I've had Masters in the past whom I did not love, but the relationships were not emotionally fulfilling to me. I think that people can have BDSM and can have vanilla sex without loving their partner. However, I have the best of both worlds now, since my Master is also my husband and I love Him very much and am very devoted to Him. And since I am able to have that and see what a terrific combination it is, I personally would not want another BDSM relationship where I did not love the other person. I personally am hardwired to equate sex with love. I can have sex without love, but it's not fulfilling. And since I can and do have both, I won't go back to BDSM without love. Then it would be no different than my first marriage and I don't want a repeat of that!