Quote Originally Posted by Synfall View Post
Maybe I should have clarified. They were nice to everyone else. We have a very strong tendency to act normal around others, so I know they can be nice. As to the rest of the family (primarily my mother and myself), you are right, they are emotionally abusive. I don't think they even realize how dangerous their words are. I'm sure they wouldn't mean to say such things if they truly understood the impact of their words because I know they love us very much. I am very uncomfortable with myself right now because I feel I am making excuses for them and there isn't one. Period. Since I have not been able to make them understand my limits in this regard I try to limit my contact with them as much as possible and when I can't avoid them I limit the conversations to very banal subjects.

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Synfall, children always want to believe that their parents mean well...since it "wrong" to be angry with them. However, many abusers are respected members of society but tyrants at home! In if they really love you, they sure have peculiar way of showing that, don't you think? If they really love, if they really are interested what is best for you...shouldn't notice that they are hurting you by saying what they say?