It's not just you.

That is my biggest thing too, finding someone compatible. I want a nice in-between. Someone who can have kinky sex, who is dominant, but yet who is...eh. Not too extreme.

I also tend to shy away from people in the Lifestyle, only because I get nervous that I am not viewed as a person, more of a thing that can be thrown out when they are done playing. I've had that experience online before and I am not eager to see how much more it hurts in real life.

Plus I am kind of a chicken. I went to a munch once, but between being uncomfortable in general and not being able to get over hearing the word "flogging" out loud I don't think that is where I will find anyone. *Blush*

I want someone to fall into my lap. Or on the ground next to me so I don't get squished.